Adoption has always been a part of my family. I have aunts, uncles, and cousins that are adopted, and foster care cousins were a normal part of my childhood. After having four of our own children, Raymond and I decided that if we were going to have any more children, we would adopt. We originally thought we would go to Mexico or Honduras for our addition, but then we felt convicted to look closer to home. Fall 2010 was the first time that Raymond and I both felt that we were ready to add another Badillo to the family, and everywhere we looked it seemed God was giving us signs that encouraged our pursuit!
In November 2010 we started very seriously discussing it, but still felt unsure of the process and the affordability of adoption. We spoke to several families who had adopted recently, and Misty thankfully led us to the Refuge house. Once I spoke to Kelsey at the Refuge House I felt for the first time that this was a true possibility for us! The gathering of the paperwork and forms to fill out was not as overwhelming as I had feared; the training was handled in a very manageable way even for our busy schedules, and the home study process was actually very bonding for us all. My current children were able to express how they felt about our family and their excitement for another sibling, and Raymond and I were able to reflect on our relationship and the journey of our lives and marriage together.
We started filling out the paperwork in December 2010, finished our trainings in January and February, and we were ready to start searching for a child by the middle of March. We were originally looking for a 4-7 year old boy, but the farther we got into the process, and the more we spoke to adoptive families, we decided we were open to a sibling group as well. I remember telling our adoption caseworker “my plan” – “Wouldn’t it be perfect if we could get our new son at the beginning of the summer, so we could have all summer to bond before school started? Then he could start kindergarten at my school in the fall! It would be perfect!” She laughed at my perfect little plan, and reminded me again that there was no way we could put a time frame on getting our adoption placement, but that time frame was probably not likely.
We were approved for adoption during the week of my spring break. We had already picked some sibling groups for Kelsey to put our family in for as a possibility once everything had become finalized, and I was excitedly looking at websites with available children! While we were out of town, Kelsey emailed me that there was a sibling group of 2 or maybe 3 that had been eligible for adoption for over a year, but a good fit family had not been found yet. She read us information about them, and we instantly said, “YES!” She reminded us again (she was very patient with me, especially!) that it would still be a LONG process waiting for CPS to look over other home studies. We stepped up our praying, and within a few days – yes days, not weeks, not months, just a few days – we had been chosen as the family for these three beautiful children! God’s hand had to be on this process! Not only were we going to be blessed with a 4 year old boy, but we also were being blessed with a 6 year old girl, and a 7 year old boy, too! Again – we heard “be patient” as we were told it would be several weeks before we got the case files to go through so we could decide if we wanted to proceed for sure. Well, the several weeks actually turned out to be about 4-5 days! Another way that God showed his timing is amazing!
Then there was a “hiccup” in the process. The children’s state lawyer tried to find reason after reason that we were not an appropriate family for these children. When her reasons for us not being the right family continued to be discounted, she pushed hard for these children to be separated because “no one family can handle all their needs.” Prayer warriors united and prayed diligently for the judge to rule in our favor, and despite the lawyers protests, the judge did grant us the right to adopt! Praise God! We were so thankful!
This weekend we will meet and spend time with our new children, and next weekend they will be with us full time! A process that CPS said was going to take 6 months to a year, has taken 2 ½ months! This adoption is not only bringing us three more children, but it has drawn all of us closer to each other, and more importantly, closer to God. It has been incredibly powerful for all of us to see God’s plan unfolding so plainly before us. Our 13 year old daughter recently wrote that the last few months she has never been so close to God, because she has felt him taking care of us. Not only has the process granted us our new children, but we also have had an outpouring of love from friends and family that has been a huge encouragement. I am so thankful that we followed our hearts and pursued adoption. It has been a great adventure for us, and we hope that others are encouraged to follow their hearts and be blessed with a child through adoption as well!
A friend recently sent this verse to me…
Lamentations 3:58 “O Lord, you took up my case; you redeemed my life.”
written by Tricia Badillo 5/16/11
Just a note: The Badillos family has doubled so we want to mobilize forces in order to load their pantry with stock food items that will give them a good head start for these new kiddos. If you are interested in making a donation of food items or grocery store gift cards, feel free to send emails to firstname.lastname@example.org and we will put you in touch with them.
Pasta – all types
Macaroni and cheese boxes
Granola bars – all types
Crackers – ritz, wheat thins, p.b. crackers
Little containers of canned peaches, apple sauce
Sugar free kool-aid/ lemonade